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To celebrate the column’s 15th anniversary this month, and the new series on Amazon Prime Video, we pulled together some greatest hits.
By Daniel Jones
New to Modern Love? These 25 essays should provide a good introduction. You’ll find some of our most read and most shared of all time, and others that really got readers talking (and tweeting, and sharing). We present, in no particular order, the quirky, the profound, the head scratching and the heartbreaking. (A handful of these essays and dozens more of our most memorable columns can also be found in the recently published Modern Love anthology.)
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By Laura Pritchett
After her peaceful marriage quietly dissolves, a woman comes to appreciate the vitality of conflict and confrontation.
By Sara Eckel
He didn’t care that I was 39 and hadn’t had a serious boyfriend in eight years.
By Katie Heaney
A young woman seeks answers to her sexual orientation online, where the endless quizzes she takes deliver whatever label she wants.
By Aaron Long
A former sperm donor, searching online, finds both offspring and love.
By Amy Sutherland
I wanted — needed — to nudge my husband a little closer to perfect.
By Miriam Johnson
A spurned woman confronts the question: When you lose love, should you even try to get over it?
By Andrew Rannells
On one of the most consequential evenings of his life, a young man still finding himself wishes he had picked up the phone.
By Karen B. Kaplan
They thought college was too soon for lifelong love, so they scheduled their next date for a little later — 60 months.
By Heather Burtman
A young woman who finds herself being catcalled, followed and grabbed at wonders why some men seem to think a female body is public property.
By Helen Ellis
At her husband’s suggestion (and with the wisdom of Marie Kondo), a recovering slob discovers the sexiness of cleanliness.
By Veronica Chambers
It’s O.K. to fall deeply for one loser after another. It’s O.K. to show up at a guy’s house with a dozen roses and declare your undying affection.
By Ada Calhoun
It’s unrealistic to expect your spouse to forever remain the same person you fell in love with.
By William Dameron
He acknowledged he was gay and left his wife, but he kept returning home for their monthly ritual.
By Benjamin Hertwig
An ex-soldier, rocked by infidelity, finds hope in a chance meeting with a mother and her young son.
By Karin Jones
A divorced woman seeking no-strings-attached liaisons learns a sobering lesson about men and marriage.
By Julia Anne Miller
During a taxi ride home a co-worker makes a surprising request.
By Ali Rachel Pearl
Living a life where secondary abstinence isn’t exactly a first choice.
By Jordana Narin
The winner of the 2015 Modern Love college essay contest, who was then a sophomore at Columbia University, writes about her generation’s reluctance to define relationships.
By Laura A. Munson
“I don’t love you anymore,” my husband said, but I survived the sucker punch.
By Amy Krouse Rosenthal
After learning she doesn’t have long to live, a woman composes a dating profile for the man she will leave behind.
By David Finch
A man learns to deal with Asperger’s syndrome, with the help of his wife.
By Diane Daniel
He took the first step in becoming a woman: surgery to help his face look more feminine.
By Gary Presley
How might a woman love the millstone I believed myself to be?
By Kristen Scharold
A Christian woman’s identity is challenged by her love for church and another woman.
By Mandy Len Catron
What happens if you decide that falling in love is not something that happens to you, but something that you do?
Daniel Jones is the editor of Modern Love.
Modern Love can be reached at modernlove@nytimes.com.
Want more? Watch the trailer for the Modern Love TV show, coming to Amazon Prime Video on Oct. 18; read past Modern Love columns and Tiny Love Stories; listen to the Modern Love Podcast on iTunes, Spotify or Google Play Music; check out the updated anthology “Modern Love: True Stories of Love, Loss, and Redemption;” and follow Modern Love on Facebook.
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