What She Learned From the One Who Got Away

18/10/2019

Thirty years ago, Deborah Copaken thought her boyfriend had stood her up. The real story was more complicated. So she used it as a cautionary tale to help reunite another couple.

To Her, He Was More Than a Doorman

18/10/2019

A platonic connection with her doorman inspired Julie Margaret Hogben’s 2015 essay about navigating the rough seas of dating and motherhood. So how are she, her daughter and Guzim doing now?

What Shamu Taught Me About a Happy Marriage

11/10/2019

In this popular essay from June 2006 — one of the most emailed New York Times articles ever — a wife tries to improve her husband by using exotic-animal training techniques.

The Gift of the Missing Men

27/09/2019

A long line of absentee fathers taught me a lesson in love that was hard to undo. It also gave me a powerful tribe of matriarchs.