Eating the Forbidden Ham Sandwich

08/05/2011

AT 8 in the morning, I expected some old woman to be working behind the counter of the pharmacy -- the kind of person who usually gets up at 6 a.m. anyway. Instead, there was a young guy in tight jeans and one of those faux-ethnic kaffiyeh scarves. I thou

Eating the Forbidden Ham Sandwich

01/05/2011

To my Indonesian immigrant parents, sex education involved instilling in me a deep fear of rape, jail, pregnancy, God and my mother.

Hearts, and Lives, Out of Step

17/04/2011

Where was the “nice boy” who would help me cross over into adulthood, into the world of rings and babies?

A Little Lint and You're Bridezilla

03/04/2011

AS the daughter of divorced parents, I wasn't sentimental about weddings or marriage. I had no visions of myself wearing a white dress. My thoughts on the subject instead tended toward pre-nups, counseling and custody. Yet when I fell in love and decided

Navigating in a Long-Distance Affair

20/03/2011

THAT there were 1,200 miles and several states between us meant constant motion: planes, taxis, buses, trams. And a lot of sitting around waiting -- in airports, for cabs, for one of us to pick up the other. Over time, the states between us grew emotional